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Saturday, 30 December 2017

Important Things Couples Should be Doing During Courtship Before Marriage

Getting married is one of the biggest
decisions that you will ever make. You are
entrusting the rest of your life into the
care of another human being and sharing
everything forever is a big commitment to
make.
But there are many out there who may
have rushed into things a little too quickly
because they didn’t take time to know their
partners. That is why courtship is an
important stage in a couple’s relationship.
It is a time for couples to get to know
each other well. It’s a time to know the
likes and dislikes of your would be
husband or wife. It is also time to know
their values, beliefs and stand on some
important issues such as finance,
parenting, marriage and settling disputes.
Unfortunately, many young men and
women don’t use their courtship period
well. They only spend time kissing, having
se x and visiting different places. They
don’t pay attention to important details
about their partners that can cause
problems in their marriages later. They
don’t know how their partners react under
stress or their stand on domestic violence,
cheating and divorce.
Courtship is not the time to put up with
negative behaviours because you don’t
want another woman or man to snatch
your partner. It is not the time for ladies
to prove the quality of their wife material
by slaving away in their partner’s kitchens
and on their beds. It is not the time for
men to impress their partners with their
fat bank accounts and build castles in the
air.
So here are the things you must do with
your potential spouse before you walk up
that aisle.
Understand your partner’s life goals
If you don’t know your partner’s life goals,
then ask. You have to go into marriage
knowing what you both want out of life –
both individually and as a couple. And
remember that while marriages always
involve some form of sacrifices on both
sides, no one should give up their dreams
for the other person.

Have arguments

You need to know that you can handle the
inevitable rows and be able to move on
from them. Arguments are never pleasant
but are often necessary to air things and
can actually make a relationship stronger.
But if you are with someone who handles
them in the worst possible way, marriage
could be tricky.

Meet both parents

Two people planning to get married should
meet each other’s families. It’s always
best to iron out any differences or
awkwardness that comes with meeting
parents and family members of your
fiancé. These people will become a huge
part of your life when you eventually get
married.
Get to know each other’s friends
Meet your partner’s friends and find out
the kind of crowd he or she moves with.
You shouldn’t leave such an important
aspect of your partner’s to chance. Get to
know his or her friends and build
relationships with them too. It will help
you both in the long run.

Explore each other’s s*xuality

S*x isn’t the beginning and end of a
relationship but it’s very important. Even
if you don’t want to have s*x before
marriage, you should at least discuss it. If
you are not s*xually compatible, you could
be signing up for a pretty tense and
satisfactory marriage.
Experience financial stress as a team
Money worries are the top reason for
marriage breakdowns so you need to
practise how you will overcome these
things as a team first. Know what your
partner earns or makes from their business
and plan your financial future carefully
and together before you walk down the
aisle.

Show your bad habits

There’s no point in pretending to be
someone you are not because you want to
get married. Ensure your partner loves you
for who you are. If they can’t cope with
your snoring, belching or nail chewing,
then it’s best that you find out now and
decide what you want to do.

Apologize and mean it

You have to know how to say sorry. Make
sure you can prove to your partner that
you are man or woman enough to hold
your hands up when you are wrong. The
respect you will win will be massive.
Disagree but stick to your guns
You also have to show your partner that
you will stand by your views too. Of course
you should compromise, but no one wants
to be with someone who always backs
down. It’s all about respect again. Your
partner should know the deal breakers in
your relationship.

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